No two people are alike and that includes personality types. Some people are naturally outgoing and can talk quite easily to strangers, while others are more withdrawn and have trouble socializing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being shy, but shyness is still often seen as a burden that people want to overcome.
Are you shy and do you have trouble talking to people and making new friends? Here are some tips you can try to overcome your shyness:
Don’t Advertise Being Shy
You don’t have to walk into a room and say, “I’m shy.” Chances are, unless you say that, no one will come to this conclusion immediately. If you see someone who looks interesting, consider striking up a conversation. Think about a subject that the two of you might have in common as that helps to break the ice. However, if you don’t feel like talking to anyone at the moment, wait a bit and see if that changes.
Ignore Your Inner Critic
Shy people often have an inner voice that impedes their progress by telling them that they should avoid certain people and situations. That causes the shy person not to take chances and they will avoid talking to certain individuals even though they do not necessarily know that the conversation might go badly.
The next time this happens to you, ignore that voice and try to strike up a conversation. If it goes well, think about what you did that made the difference and try this approach again with someone else.
Don’t be Discouraged
Even if your encounter went badly, don’t give up. The most outgoing people in the world have bad conversations and don’t always say the right things. This doesn’t bother them because they know that, at the end of the day, it’s not that important.
Are you the type of person who dreads birthdays? Not your own, but other people’s birthdays? Yes? Is it because you find it so difficult to choose the right presents?
Some people put very little thought into the gifts they buy, while others agonize over their decision because they consider birthdays to be a special occasion and they don’t want to disappoint anyone.
Choosing gifts for your parents can be daunting. If you don’t have a lot of time to be with them these days, it can be tough to know what to get. Also, they are your parents, not the guy down the hall at work you speak to once a week, so this matters.
Out of ideas? It’s tough to go wrong with any of these:
Have some nice photos that you think your parents would like? Have good quality prints made and framed. If you have children, we have yet to hear of any grandparents who are upset to receive pics of their grand kids.
Sound Machines for Sleeping
The older we get, the less quality sleep we seem to get. Have your parents found it helpful to have soothing sounds playing on their phone or stereo while trying to sleep? Sound machines perform the same function, but with far more options. They can also be easily taken on vacation.
Everyone’s phone is constantly running out of juice, so portable batteries are in demand and not that unique. However, there are now some on the market that can actually jump start your car should the need arise. A perfect addition to anyone’s car kit.
Depending on how tech-oriented your parents are, a Google Home or Amazon Echo can be a wonderful present for their home. Then again, even if they aren’t, you can hook one up and then let the system deal with their needs going forward. Beats getting that call where you have to explain which cord goes where.
We would all like to be more intelligent, but not many of us have the time or opportunity to go back to school and continue our education. However, there are little things you can do every day that will help to make you smarter. It may not be the equivalent of getting a Master’s Degree, but every little bit helps, so why not take a few minutes each day to do one or more of the following?
Listen to Podcasts
Most of us have to commute to and from work everday, and that can sometimes take an hour or more of your time. Rather than just listening to music during that time, try some podcasts. News, opinion, how to…there are many different kinds out there that will help to add to your knowledge base.
Drink Green Tea
Most people load up on coffee to get them through the workday, but the only way to stay sharp is to keep drinking it. Green tea has less caffeine, but it also has l-theanine, an aminoacid that increases alpha brain waves, which aid both concentration and relaxation. So you get the brain boost equivalent to caffeine without the resulting anxiety and edginess.
We spend so much of our time staring at screens, be it social media or television, that many people are not reading as much as they used to. Read a good book; not only will you learn things, but the brain stimulation is much better for your cognitive processes than passively watching TV.
Spend Time With Smart People
This might seem intimidating, but you will almost certainly learn new things from such interactions. Also, you will have to up your game in order to contribute to a conversation, so that means more intense levels of concentration and an increased willingness to absorb new info.